Your Purpose

Your purpose is not about what you do;

it’s about who you are.

Quote from Abraham Hicks


Have you ever wondered what your purpose is in this life? You’re not alone. Practically everyone has struggled with this question, sometimes multiple times throughout life. It’s not an easy question to answer until you realize that it’s not about the “what” it’s about YOU.

You are your purpose.

Once you focus on creating the best you, then everything else falls into place.

It’s not so much about your chosen career or lack thereof, it’s about who you are and how you present yourself to others in your daily life, including at home, at work, with friends, or with strangers,

Your purpose is about who you are.

You can apply the “your purpose” mantra or formula to almost anything you are struggling with in life, or anything you wish to improve upon. Just substitute the word “who” with the word “how,” and in most cases you will have given yourself a new perspective.


  • It’s not about what you’re teaching; it’s about HOW you’re teaching it.
  • It’s not about what you’re selling; it’s about HOW you’re selling it.
  • It’s not about what you say; it’s about HOW you say it. How many times has someone acted offended by something you said, and you’re bewildered with the “What did I say wrong?” question?

Here’s a hint: It’s not what you said; it was the way in which you said it.

The tone with which words are spoken can change the flow of a conversation. Your purpose in any situation should be to achieve a worthy goal or a positive outcome for yourself, as well as for those with whom you are interacting.


  • Sincerity matters. (Do you really care?)
  • Passion matters. (How deep are your intentions?)
  • Attitude matters. (Are you feeling positive, confident, and kind?)
  • Devotion matters. (Are you devoted to the highest good for all, including yourself?)
  • Energy matters. (Are you allowing uplifting energy to infiltrate your life, your speech, and your actions? Are you focused on sharing positive energy?)

If any of your answers to the questions above are negative in nature, do not despair. You can change them. Look for things in life that bring you joy and give yourself access to them daily, or several times a day.

Take time to journal as often as possible and be sure to include what you love about yourself. If you are feeling defeated, then think back to childhood. What do you love about the child inside of you? Be the parent to your inner child and see how truly lovable you are, because all of us are lovable. Everyone deserves love.

Part of your purpose is to become a person that shares love, kindness, compassion, and empathy with your brothers and sisters, and we are all brothers and sisters.



When I was a freshman in college, back in the day, the card game Spades was very popular and you could usually find a group of us playing daily. If you are familiar with the game, then you know that a spade trumps the other suits and you win the trick, unless someone else plays a higher spade than you. Your purpose was to win the most tricks.

So think “SPADE” when you need to remember the five attributes listed above to help you approach a situation, uplift your mood, or for problem solving with a positive outlook.


Substitute the word who with the word how, and give yourself a new perspective on your purpose in life. Click To Tweet

May – Mental Health Awareness Month

May is mental health awareness month in America. It was designated as such in 1949, by the Mental Health America organization. mental-health-awareness-2017

When we talk about health, we can’t just focus on heart health, or liver health, or brain health, and not whole health. You have to see the whole person, and make use of the tools and resources that benefit minds and bodies together. That’s why this year, our May is Mental Health Month theme is Fitness #4Mind4Body


Each year in mid-March Mental Health America releases a toolkit of materials to guide preparation for outreach activities during Mental Health Awareness Month. During the month of May, Mental Health America, its affiliates, and other organizations interested in mental health conduct a number of activities which are based on a different theme each year.”  View past themes here. 


Take a look at Arlington, Virgina, for an inspiring glimpse into a community that’s doing it right.

The Arlington Partnership for Children, Youth and Families Foundation is an outgrowth of the Partnership. A number of present and former APCYF board members determined that a nonprofit, charitable corporation is needed to raise and expend funds for Partnership projects that the county and school budgets cannot accommodate.

Our Vision

Arlington, a community where all young people and families are valued, supported and empowered.

Care for a change – also in Arlington.

Care for a Change, or CFAC, is a community-led initiative to increase and encourage empathy among Arlington youth.


From the National Institute of Mental Health…

Any Mental Illness

  • Any mental illness (AMI) is defined as a mental, behavioral, or emotional disorder. AMI can vary in impact, ranging from no impairment to mild, moderate, and even severe impairment (e.g., individuals with serious mental illness as defined below).

Serious Mental Illness

  • Serious mental illness (SMI) is defined as a mental, behavioral, or emotional disorder resulting in serious functional impairment, which substantially interferes with or limits one or more major life activities. The burden of mental illnesses is particularly concentrated among those who experience disability due to SMI.


The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), defines a serious mental illness as a mental, behavioral, or emotional disorder that limits one or more major life activities.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, just over 20-percent or about 1 in 5 children, have had a seriously debilitating mental disorder.


See a list of national events at  the American Psychological Association’s website.

APA Commemorates Mental Health Awareness Month With Series of Special Activities

Events will focus on children, older Americans, women of color, the LGBTIQ community and people with chronic illnesses

WASHINGTON — The American Psychological Association is honoring Mental Health Awareness Month in May with a range of activities aimed at providing important insights into the status of mental health for minority and vulnerable communities and finding solutions and sharing resources to address critical gaps in comprehensive care and policy.



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Dementia and Anger

Realizing that your loved one is suffering from dementia or Alzheimer’s Disease can be devastating. Regardless of how much you learn about the progression of such conditions, it can still be shocking and heart-breaking when your loved one exhibits extreme symptoms of dementia and anger.

Knowing what to do and how to handle potential situations can help alleviate the stress of care-givers. This article addresses anger and aggression issues that may arise with those suffering from dementia or Alzheimer’s Disease.



Sometimes anger can lead to aggressive behavior, which can lead to a potentially dangerous situation not only for your loved one, but also for those caring for them.

Safety – with compassion – is the priority.

While it may sound insulting, the truth is that the best way to deal with a confused person affected by dementia, is by alleviating their fears, much like you would with a small child.

Most of the chaotic emotions Alzheimer’s patients are dealing with stem from their lack of understanding about what is happening to them, their confusion about where they are or who they’re with, and their loss of what they believe to be their every day life, which in reality was lived many years or even decades ago.

Try to remember this.

Alzheimer’s and Dementia patients are living in a time warp that makes no sense to them; they are scared and confused.

It can be shocking when your loved one exhibits extreme symptoms of dementia. Click To Tweet

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First, reassure them that you are taking care of whatever issue has them upset. You could also name another person that they trust and say that they are handling the situation.

Affirm that everything is going to be fine.

Second, find something to get them involved with that will divert their attention.

A short walk through the house might work, while talking about furniture, artwork, house chores, etc. Perhaps they can fold some towels, look at some photographs, put a puzzle together, or check on some houseplants to see if they need watering. Maybe it’s time to eat a meal or a snack, or just have a cup of water, tea or juice.

Be creative and be prepared.

If folding clothes works for your loved one,
then always have a basket of towels nearby that they can fold.




Reasoning with your parent might not be the best option. Instead, say what you need to in order to make them feel safe or reassured. So, if they are demanding to go home, don’t tell them they already are home. Instead, explain that they can’t leave right at that moment because the weather or traffic is bad.




What to Do When Your Parent Exhibits Aggressive Behavior As a Result of Alzheimer’s




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