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Your Purpose

Your purpose is not about what you do;

it’s about who you are.

Quote from Abraham Hicks


Have you ever wondered what your purpose is in this life? You’re not alone. Practically everyone has struggled with this question, sometimes multiple times throughout life. It’s not an easy question to answer until you realize that it’s not about the “what” it’s about YOU.


You are your purpose.


Once you focus on creating the best you, then everything else falls into place.

It’s not so much about your chosen career or lack thereof, it’s about who you are and how you present yourself to others in your daily life, including at home, at work, with friends, or with strangers,

Your purpose is about who you are.

You can apply the “your purpose” mantra or formula to almost anything you are struggling with in life, or anything you wish to improve upon. Just substitute the word “who” with the word “how,” and in most cases you will have given yourself a new perspective.


  • It’s not about what you’re teaching; it’s about HOW you’re teaching it.
  • It’s not about what you’re selling; it’s about HOW you’re selling it.
  • It’s not about what you say; it’s about HOW you say it. How many times has someone acted offended by something you said, and you’re bewildered with the “What did I say wrong?” question?

Here’s a hint: It’s not what you said; it was the way in which you said your purpose

The tone with which words are spoken can change the flow of a conversation. Your purpose in any situation should be to achieve a worthy goal or a positive outcome for yourself, as well as for those with whom you are interacting.


  • Sincerity matters. (Do you really care?)

  • Passion matters. (How deep are your intentions?)

  • Attitude matters. (Are you feeling positive, confident, and kind?)

  • Devotion matters. (Are you devoted to the highest good for all, including yourself?)

  • Energy matters. (Are you allowing uplifting energy to infiltrate your life, your speech, and your actions? Are you focused on sharing positive energy?)

If any of your answers to the questions above are negative in nature, do not despair. You can change them. Look for things in life that bring you joy and give yourself access to them daily, or several times a day.

Take time to journal as often as possible and be sure to include what you love about yourself. If you are feeling defeated, then think back to childhood. What do you love about the child inside of you? Be the parent to your inner child and see how truly lovable you are, because all of us are lovable. Everyone deserves love.

Part of your purpose is to become a person that shares love, kindness, compassion, and empathy with your brothers and sisters, and we are all brothers and sisters.



When I was a freshman in college, back in the day, the card game Spades was very popular and you could usually find a group of us playing daily. If you are familiar with the game, then you know that a spade trumps the other suits and you win the trick, unless someone else plays a higher spade than you. Your purpose was to win the most tricks.

So think “SPADE” when you need to remember the five attributes listed above to help you approach a situation, uplift your mood, or for problem solving with a positive outlook.


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How to End Procrastination

Procrastination plagues most people at some point in their lives. It is definitely a problem for those suffering through depression and anxiety. However, there are sometimes some little steps one can take, even while living with depression, that can make you feel better about yourself.

Conquering procrastination for just one thing or for just one day, can lighten one’s mood and help you feel as though you are proactively doing something to improve your situation.

Honestly, procrastination has always remained with me, even though I often take steps to end it. It seems as though I can only end it for a set span of time, or for a particular project, but every step forward counts – it’s better than standing still.

The article linked below provided a good tip on how to end procrastination.

Simply place yourself in the future and imagine how you feel if you conquered procrastination and experienced the rewards of that.



Place yourself into a future where you have continuously procrastinated and therefore NOT received any benefits, only regrets.

You may be thinking that this is not relevant to you because you are depressed, or because your anxiety level is just too high.

I would ask you to consider it a bit further.

For instance, have you been wanting something that you can honestly get for yourself, but you simply cannot muster up the strength and will to actually get it?

It could be something as simple (or as complex) as having a milkshake or a smoothie.

You may not feel up to making one yourself, and that’s okay.

Here’s the thing.

If you have access to a car, drive yourself to McDonald’s and get a milkshake or a smoothie (their’s are gluten free). You can pick it up using the drive-through window, so it does NOT matter what you wear, or how you look. Put on some sun-glasses and go.

If you are worried about the menu choice, then check it out online before you go.

Google it. chocolate-mccafe

If you don’t have access to a car, then the next best thing is to ask someone to pick one up for you. Again, check the menu online, so you can be specific when you ask,

The art of asking for something you want is often lost when one is depressed. So force yourself to ask for something you want – something within reason, of course.

Maybe it’s not such a big deal if you don’t get the milkshake. But maybe it is a big deal if you would like a milkshake and do nothing about it. That’s the real issue.

Maybe you can’t go today, but how about plan to go tomorrow or even next Sunday?

Set a goal. Make arrangements to get something you want – either on your own, or by asking someone for a small favor.

Every change you make can change your future for the better.

I know which future I prefer – no regrets.

What say you?

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Do you have dreams and ambitions but never seem to take action? Do you have work to do and deadlines but just can’t seem to get motivated until the very last minute? If you answered yes to any of those questions then you probably have procrastinated.Now we all do procrastinated to a certain extent, no one is […]

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