How to End Procrastination

Procrastination plagues most people at some point in their lives. It is definitely a problem for those suffering through depression and anxiety. However, there are sometimes some little steps one can take, even while living with depression, that can make you feel better about yourself.

Conquering procrastination for just one thing or for just one day, can lighten one’s mood and help you feel as though you are proactively doing something to improve your situation.

Honestly, procrastination has always remained with me, even though I often take steps to end it. It seems as though I can only end it for a set span of time, or for a particular project, but every step forward counts – it’s better than standing still.

The article linked below provided a good tip on how to end procrastination.

Simply place yourself in the future and imagine how you feel if you conquered procrastination and experienced the rewards of that.

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Now…

Place yourself into a future where you have continuously procrastinated and therefore NOT received any benefits, only regrets.

You may be thinking that this is not relevant to you because you are depressed, or because your anxiety level is just too high.

I would ask you to consider it a bit further.

For instance, have you been wanting something that you can honestly get for yourself, but you simply cannot muster up the strength and will to actually get it?

It could be something as simple (or as complex) as having a milkshake or a smoothie.

You may not feel up to making one yourself, and that’s okay.

Here’s the thing.

If you have access to a car, drive yourself to McDonald’s and get a milkshake or a smoothie (their’s are gluten free). You can pick it up using the drive-through window, so it does NOT matter what you wear, or how you look. Put on some sun-glasses and go.

If you are worried about the menu choice, then check it out online before you go.

Google it. chocolate-mccafe

If you don’t have access to a car, then the next best thing is to ask someone to pick one up for you. Again, check the menu online, so you can be specific when you ask,

The art of asking for something you want is often lost when one is depressed. So force yourself to ask for something you want – something within reason, of course.

Maybe it’s not such a big deal if you don’t get the milkshake. But maybe it is a big deal if you would like a milkshake and do nothing about it. That’s the real issue.

Maybe you can’t go today, but how about plan to go tomorrow or even next Sunday?

Set a goal. Make arrangements to get something you want – either on your own, or by asking someone for a small favor.

Every change you make can change your future for the better.

I know which future I prefer – no regrets.

What say you?

 

Do you have dreams and ambitions but never seem to take action? Do you have work to do and deadlines but just can’t seem to get motivated until the very last minute? If you answered yes to any of those questions then you probably have procrastinated.Now we all do procrastinated to a certain extent, no one is […]

via Start Today & Stop Procrastinating — Jay Colby

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Improve Your Luck

Luck is defined as “success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one’s own actions.”

Experimental psychologist, author, creative consultant for many television programs, and magician – Professor Richard Wiseman conducted a study on over 400 volunteer participants for ten years, in an effort to understand why some people have good luck, while others do not.

He discovered that luck is not magical, unless one considers paying attention and being aware to be a magical ability. A person can improve their luck by simply becoming more aware and more relaxed.

You do not need a lucky rabbit’s foot (I had one as a child) or a four leaf clover, although such items four leaf clovermay serve as reminders that you are in control of your luck, good or bad.

Superstition / Magical Charms

If you have “good luck charms,” you do not need to throw them away, but instead use them as constant reminders that give you power to change your luck!

According to Wiseman…

My research revealed that lucky people generate their own good fortune via four basic principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.

To further prove his point, he conducted an experiment in which he gave the same newspaper to all of the participants.

He asked all of them to count the number of photographs.

The unlucky people averaged about two minutes to count all of the photographs.

The lucky people were done in a matter of seconds.

Why?

Because the second page of the newspaper contained the message “Stop counting –
There are 43 photographs in this newspaper.”

Wiseman described the “ad” above as taking up half a page, with the font size being over two inches.

As I read about this newspaper experiment, I wondered if I would have seen the ad. Truthfully speaking, I believe I would take notice of it on some days, and on other days I might not, which further proves Professor Wiseman’s reasoning that our attitude affects our luck.

I had an English professor my freshman year in college who did something similar. He handed out a quiz and the first instruction said to read all of the questions before answering. I did. The last question said “Sign your paper and hand it in. Do not answer any of the questions.” I was lucky that day.

If this isn’t enough proof that we manifest our own good luck by our attitudes and actions, keep reading.

Wiseman continued his experiment with the newspaper by adding another large ad about half-way into the newspaper.

As Wiseman explained…

This one announced:
“Stop counting, tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $250.” Again, the unlucky people missed the opportunity because they were still too busy looking for photographs.

Continued experiments indicated that anxiety plays a key role in how people react to such instructions. Those overcome with anxiety to complete the task, do not notice the “extra” ads.

Here is an example of how paying attention and being aware of what is happening around you, even as you are walking down the street, can offer you a chance at some good luck – IF you notice and take appropriate action.

As reported in The Luck Factor…

Barnett Helzberg Jr. is a lucky man. By 1994 he had built up a chain of highly successful jewelry stores with an annual revenue of around $300 mil-lion. One day he was walking past the Plaza Hotel in New York when he heard a woman call out, “Mr. Buffett” to the man next to him. Helzberg won-dered whether the man might be Warren Buffett – one of the most successful investors in America. Helzberg had never met Buffett, but had read about the financial criteria that Buffett used when buying a company.

Helzberg had recently turned sixty, was thinking of selling his company, and realized that his might be the type of company that would interest Buffett. Helzberg seized the opportunity, walked over to the stranger and introduced himself. The man did indeed turn out to be Warren Buffett, and the chance meeting proved highly fortuitous because about a year later Buffett agreed to buy Helzberg’s chain of stores. And all because Helz-berg just happened to be walking by as a woman called out Buffett’s name on a street corner in New York.

Read the full report of Wiseman’s experiments and findings as published in The Skeptical Inquirer, in this pdf file, The Luck Factor.”

Source: Richard Wiseman’s website.

Good Luck!

Good Luck!

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Angry Rants

Angry rants. We have all experienced them. Most of the time we are victims of the rant, and some of us have been the perpetrators of the rant, spewing venomous words at random and letting the poison land where it will.

Some of us find ourselves targets of rants while expressing our opinions through social media. Often, people will respond to a rant with a similar attitude, using similar words, and end up adding fuel to the fire of the original ranter. This serves no purpose.

How well do you handle angry rants that are directed at you? angry-rant

Reflecting on our own angry rants can help us muddle through rants when we are the target.

  • For instance, have you ever noticed a time when you blew up at someone or about something that had nothing to do with the reasons or situations that made you angry?
  • Often, we can be upset about something at home and yet take it out on someone at work, or vice versa.
  • One person may make us angry, while another person suffers the effects of that anger because we feel uncomfortable speaking up to the one(s) who caused the anger. We hurt the ones we love with this type of angry rant because we trust them to NOT leave us.

The important thing is to recognize what is really happening.

It is important to understand the mental process behind people’s rants. They are often afraid of change and are fearful of people who are “different” from them. This fear causes them to lash out verbally against whatever they perceive to be threatening their way of life.

“It’s Not About You” is an excellent article that explains how to deal with these ranters.

“Understanding that you aren’t responsible for other people’s behavior is liberating. When you know that words spoken in anger aren’t really about you, the attack, while still unpleasant, doesn’t have to damage your self-esteem. It’s also easier to find a way to forgive the other person.”