Psychologist Carl Rogers

Famous and noteworthy psychotherapists…

Carl Rogers (1902 – 1987)

Favorite Carl Rogers quote:

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.

 

Carl Rogers, an American psychologist, has the distinct honor of being known as the father of Person Centered therapy, also known as Client Centered therapy.

He believed the role of a psychotherapist was to enable a person to come to certain deductions and therefore solutions on their own, with a little help from the therapist.

Here is a video of Carl Rogers at a lecture on Empathy.

 

Rogers is also known for his philosophy regarding “arguments.” He believed one should not argue a point until they completely understood the other person’s point of view.

 

This polite and civil type of argument is known as a Rogerian Argument.

 

Here’s an easy explanation of Rogerian Arguments in a YouTube video:

 

Anxiety and Panic

While dealing with agoraphobia I was once in panic the day before I was to take a short road-trip with my daughter. It was only two hours at the most, depending on traffic, but a large bridge was involved, as was meeting new people and having conversations with them.

Mighty big bridge causes anxiety for some

Mighty big bridge causes anxiety for some

I made it, and so can you.

I just read this article on Deepak Chopra’s website regarding Chaos and I found it to be insightful and helpful. Feel free to visit and read the entire article. I have included what I found to be most helpful below.

My application of this and my interpretation follows the excerpt.

What Is a Positive Emotional Anchor?

From the teaching of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), comes the concept of an anchor. The simplest way to explain an anchor is to think of it as a link to an emotional state. The anchor serves as a reminder or a trigger that puts you into a certain state of being. Of course, anchors can be both positive and negative; however, we’re going to focus on positive anchors.

For example, an athlete will use an anchor to get back into “the zone” so they can regain peak performance in a game. It may be a visual image of shooting the perfect basket or knocking the ball out of the park. A professional speaker will have a routine they do before going on stage to remind them of the positive states they want to be in while presenting. This routine is their way of setting up an anchor—or a positive state. You can use this same concept at any time to help you get out of a chaotic state.

– See more at: http://www.chopra.com/ccl/from-chaos-to-calm-in-an-instant-how-to-create-a-positive-anchor

Application

In the circumstance I mentioned earlier, I created an anchor by thinking about having my daughter to myself for the round-trip and how much fun we would have catching up, talking, and most importantly, laughing.

I then started to think about some of the things I would like to speak to her about – not motherly advice things – but things that interest her. Where does she see herself in five years? Is she happy with her boyfriend? Is he the one, or is he just the right one for right now. How does she feel about a political or social issue right now. I would ask her to tell me about her job and how it makes her feel.

I began to visualize the conversation and realized I needed to insert some humor, so I began to brainstorm some silly things I had seen on Facebook.

And then there’s gossip. Did you hear about what happened to _______?

My visualization calmed me and gave me peace.

Focus on the anchor, and the rest will fall into place.

Also, I knew I could count on her for help and support just in case I had a panic or anxiety attack. She would help me make a fast exit either to the restroom or outside. She’s that kind of girl.

 

John Lennon – Imagine Video

This is by far my favorite go-to video when I’m feeling distraught about the state of our nation and our world. I’ve always loved the song, but this video with John and Yoko is amazing.

It often brings me to tears, but that’s okay, because sometimes we need to shed a few tears to cleanse our souls of less than perfect events which we have no control over.

We can, however, control how we react.

Close-up portrait of Japanese-born artist and musician Yoko Ono and British musican and artist John Lennon (1940 - 1980), December 1968. (Photo by Susan Wood/Getty Images)

Close-up portrait of Japanese-born artist and musician Yoko Ono and British musican and artist John Lennon (1940 – 1980), December 1968. (Photo by Susan Wood/Getty Images)

I often react by getting still, taking a few deep breaths, and listening to this John Lennon Imagine video. I miss John Lennon and the music he could have created to help heal us. May he RIP.

Watch til the end if you want to get a glimpse of their humor and the obviously wonderful love they shared.

Enjoy.