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Improve Your Luck

Luck is defined as “success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one’s own actions.”

Experimental psychologist, author, creative consultant for many television programs, and magician – Professor Richard Wiseman conducted a study on over 400 volunteer participants for ten years, in an effort to understand why some people have good luck, while others do not.

He discovered that luck is not magical, unless one considers paying attention and being aware to be a magical ability. A person can improve their luck by simply becoming more aware and more relaxed.

You do not need a lucky rabbit’s foot (I had one as a child) or a four leaf clover, although such items four leaf clovermay serve as reminders that you are in control of your luck, good or bad.

Superstition / Magical Charms

If you have “good luck charms,” you do not need to throw them away, but instead use them as constant reminders that give you power to change your luck!

According to Wiseman…

My research revealed that lucky people generate their own good fortune via four basic principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.

To further prove his point, he conducted an experiment in which he gave the same newspaper to all of the participants.

He asked all of them to count the number of photographs.

The unlucky people averaged about two minutes to count all of the photographs.

The lucky people were done in a matter of seconds.

Why?

Because the second page of the newspaper contained the message “Stop counting –
There are 43 photographs in this newspaper.”

Wiseman described the “ad” above as taking up half a page, with the font size being over two inches.

As I read about this newspaper experiment, I wondered if I would have seen the ad. Truthfully speaking, I believe I would take notice of it on some days, and on other days I might not, which further proves Professor Wiseman’s reasoning that our attitude affects our luck.

I had an English professor my freshman year in college who did something similar. He handed out a quiz and the first instruction said to read all of the questions before answering. I did. The last question said “Sign your paper and hand it in. Do not answer any of the questions.” I was lucky that day.

If this isn’t enough proof that we manifest our own good luck by our attitudes and actions, keep reading.

Wiseman continued his experiment with the newspaper by adding another large ad about half-way into the newspaper.

As Wiseman explained…

This one announced:
“Stop counting, tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $250.” Again, the unlucky people missed the opportunity because they were still too busy looking for photographs.

Continued experiments indicated that anxiety plays a key role in how people react to such instructions. Those overcome with anxiety to complete the task, do not notice the “extra” ads.

Here is an example of how paying attention and being aware of what is happening around you, even as you are walking down the street, can offer you a chance at some good luck – IF you notice and take appropriate action.

As reported in The Luck Factor…

Barnett Helzberg Jr. is a lucky man. By 1994 he had built up a chain of highly successful jewelry stores with an annual revenue of around $300 mil-lion. One day he was walking past the Plaza Hotel in New York when he heard a woman call out, “Mr. Buffett” to the man next to him. Helzberg won-dered whether the man might be Warren Buffett – one of the most successful investors in America. Helzberg had never met Buffett, but had read about the financial criteria that Buffett used when buying a company.

Helzberg had recently turned sixty, was thinking of selling his company, and realized that his might be the type of company that would interest Buffett. Helzberg seized the opportunity, walked over to the stranger and introduced himself. The man did indeed turn out to be Warren Buffett, and the chance meeting proved highly fortuitous because about a year later Buffett agreed to buy Helzberg’s chain of stores. And all because Helz-berg just happened to be walking by as a woman called out Buffett’s name on a street corner in New York.

Read the full report of Wiseman’s experiments and findings as published in The Skeptical Inquirer, in this pdf file, The Luck Factor.”

Source: Richard Wiseman’s website.

Good Luck!

Good Luck!

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Gestalt Empty Chair Therapy

The Empty Chair

The Empty Chair

Gestalt Therapy

AKA the Empty Chair Therapy

Gestalt Therapy utilizes an empty chair to give a client a safe way to express previously unspoken feelings and emotions.

Developed by Fritz Perlz. Laura Perlz. Miriam and Erving Polster.

Stress is on placed on awareness and integration of the functioning of body and mind. The intention is to expand a person’s awareness of the present moment.

Gestalt therapy has developed over time and is currently supportive, accepting, empathetic, respectful, and challenging. It is an holistic approach to the personality in the present moment.

• During therapy, the client is encouraged to bring out hidden feelings.
• Much use is made of the ‘open chair’ technique.
• This is when the client sits opposite an empty chair and then mentally places into that chair someone significant, who has caused him or her pain or trouble.
• The client then tells the ‘person’ in the empty chair what they have been unable to express before.
• Sometimes the client is encouraged to swap chairs and to answer his own claims or accusations from the other person’s perspective.
• This technique can give rise to emotional scenes, and the previously buried emotions need to be handled carefully.